Separation under the same roof

The only legally accepted reason to get a divorce in Australia is that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. This means that the court must be satisfied that you and your spouse lived separately and apart for a period of 12 months immediately before the date of applying for a divorce order. If you want to separate but continue to live together in the same home for financial, parenting, or other reasons, this is called ‘separation under the same roof’.

Separation under the same roof does not just mean sleeping separately. The Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia (FCFCOA) requires evidence that either you or your spouse said the relationship was over and, from that time, you did not act like a married couple, but you behaved like a separated person both inside and outside the home.

If you and your spouse have lived at the same address for some, or all of, the 12 months immediately before applying for divorce, you will need to also provide two affidavits describing your separation when you file your application for divorce. An affidavit is a written statement of evidence.

If you are still living at the same address at the time you apply for divorce, you will need to explain what your plans are for living arrangements in the future.

If you are both living at the same address at the date of your divorce hearing or intend to keep living in the same home, the court might not grant your divorce.

The FCFCOA cannot grant a divorce order if there is a reasonable likelihood that your relationship will resume.

1. I am the Applicant [Husband/Wife] in these proceedings.
2. I was born on [full date of birth] in [location] and I am [XX] years of age. I came to Australia on or around [year] and I am now an Australian citizen (or state your migration status).
3. The Respondent [Husband/Wife] is [full name] (Write the name of the Respondent and then use this name throughout the Affidavit where it says ‘Respondent’). [Respondent] was born on [full date of birth] in [location] and is [XX] years of age and is also an Australian citizen.
4. [Respondent] and I met around [date] and were married on [date] in [location].
5. [Respondent] and I separated on a final basis on [date], and we continued to live at the same address at [address] from [date] to [date] until he/she/I moved out to [address].
6. There are [X] child/ren of the marriage. They are [list full names and dates of birth and current ages for each child of the relationship, including stepchildren].

Our marriage before separation:

7. During our marriage, I cooked for [Respondent] and washed and ironed their clothes [describe any other household tasks you shared or did for each other whilst together].
8. [Respondent] and I would visit friends and sometimes they would come to our home [give examples].
9. We also travelled as a family [give examples].
10. We [had/have] a joint bank account and we [bought/rented] our home in our joint names.
11. During our marriage, we slept in the same bed and had a sexual relationship/we had been living in separate bedrooms under the one roof for many years.

Marriage after separation:

12. Describe what happened on your date of separation. Did you have an argument on the telephone? Did you have a discussion and decide how to tell the children and family and friends? Were police or family members involved on that day? Did you write text messages or emails saying the marriage had ended? State the facts as best as you can remember. If you are reporting a conversation use direct language, e.g.

    On [date], [Respondent] and I were at [location] and I remember we had a conversation with words to the effect of:

    Me: “This isn’t working, our marriage is over.”

    [Respondent]: “I agree. I will move my stuff into the spare bedroom until I can find my own place.”

    Use the words that you each said (as far as you can remember) to show that you believed each of you knew the marriage ended on that date.

Then, explain how the relationship changed from what it was before. For example:

13. Since the date of separation [Respondent] moved into a separate bedroom.
14. I continue to cook for our family but [Respondent] eats separately and often eats out of the home.
15. I have stopped washing and ironing [Respondent]’s clothes and doing other household chores for [Respondent].
16. Since separation, I have done my own shopping and washed my own clothes.
17. [Respondent] and I no longer socialise as a couple and do not visit friends together or celebrate family occasions like Christmas or birthdays together.
18. [Respondent] and I have separate bank accounts and we split all our bills for the children.
19. [Respondent] and I do not usually speak to each other unless it relates to the [children/household bills/discussions about moving].
20. Around [date], I told my close friend [friend’s full name] who lives in [location] that [Respondent] and I had separated. I remember I said words to the effect of “[Respondent] and I have decided to separate since last month. I moved out to the spare room and I need to find a new place to stay.”
21. Since we became separated under the same roof, [Respondent] and I have not spent time or socialised with each other except for the children’s birthdays. Sometimes we have done things together for the home but it was as housemates, not as a husband and wife.
22. When we separated I told Centrelink/other agencies about the separation [describe how you informed Centrelink or other agencies about the separation].

Also describe when you or the other person moved out. For example:

23. On [date], I moved to [new address] and [Respondent] and I divided our things. We are currently working out a financial settlement between us with lawyers.

Or, if you can’t move, explain why you are still living under one roof.

23. Both [Respondent] and I receive Centrelink income and have applied to the Department of Housing to find new accommodation. I have looked at the rental properties available that are near to the children’s school, but they are [$dollars] per week and I only receive [$dollars], so I cannot afford to move out yet.

1. I am the best friend/cousin/doctor/co-worker (describe your relationship) of the Applicant [name you call the Applicant] in this matter. I have known [Applicant] for [how long?].
2. I was born on [full date of birth] in [location] and I am [XX] years of age. I came to Australia on or around [year] and I am now an Australian citizen (or state your migration status).

Describe how you met the [Respondent] and, if you attended the wedding, and how often you spent time with the couple after they were married. For example:

3. I often visited my friend [Applicant] at home. I was their wedding photographer. Our children are the same ages and attended the same schools so we met almost every day.
4. When I visited their home, I noticed that both [Applicant and Respondent] would cook together. I noticed they were sharing a bedroom when we travelled together.
5. Around [date], [Applicant] came over to my house looking upset and said words to the effect of “[Respondent] and I decided to separate last month. I moved out to the spare room and I need to find a new place to stay.”

Describe what you have personally seen, heard or been told about the separation. For example:

6. I have not directly spoken to [Respondent] about what happened since they separated. I remember I said words to the effect of “I was sorry to hear what happened, I’m here if you want to talk”.
7. Since their separation, I have visited [Applicant] and [Respondent] has not been around when I have visited their home.
8. When I visited the home, I observed [Respondent’s] clothes and computer in the spare room, with blankets and a mattress on the floor. [Applicant] said words to the effect of “I cook and clean for myself now”.
9. A few months ago. I attended a friend’s wedding and I saw that [Respondent] attended and the bride told me words to the effect of “I couldn’t invite [Applicant] because everyone knows they just separated.”
10. I understand from my observations and conversations with [Applicant/Respondent] that they live separately and apart in the same home.